ita ut e contrario magis donetis, et consolemini, ne forte abundantiori tristitia absorbeatur qui ejusmodi est.
So that on the contrary, you should rather forgive him and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.
Ita ut ex contrario magis dona, et consola, ne forte abundantiori tristitia absorbe qui eiusmodi es.